True
Love Advice
Expressing True
Love
We all tend to relate to true love in a private way,
as just an inner emotion. We can also try to keep it safe by keeping it
inside, hiding it from the object of our love. It can feel vulnerable and
risky to show it openly to the object of our affection.
But what if true love was more like a beacon of light that was supposed to
shine and illuminate the world around us? Instead of being hidden or kept
safe, what if true love was meant to be translated into acts and expressions
of love as often as possible?
This is one of the keys to making true love grow.
Turn it into action.
True love is meant to be expressed. It is meant to be given away freely. It
is not supposed to be just a private inner feeling. So when you feel true
love in your life, find ways to act on it. Give it away. Shine its light
into the world around you.
The point is to turn true love into expressed action in your life. Show it.
Shine it from the rooftops. Express it directly.
How can you do this? There are many ways, but one good way is to listen.
Listen to your mate or love like your life depends upon it. Focus completely
on what they are saying. Listening in this way is a powerful gift to give to
another person. Making them feel heard and understood when they share with
you is a very generous and nurturing act.
Another great way to express true love is looking. Yes, looking! Look them
right in the eye, drink them in while conversing. Direct eye connection is a
powerful acknowledgment. Research has shown that simple direct eye contact
diminishes over time in relationships. Don't let that happen. Show your true
love with this simple practice!
And then of course a powerful expression of true love is touch. Not just
sexual touch, but outside the bedroom. Just brushing their arm, giving hugs,
5 second caresses. These are direct expressions of affection that
touch the heart easily.
Three simple ways to express true love. Listening. Looking. Touching. There
are many more, but these are a good basic practice. Turn your true love into
direct action, shine your light, and see what a difference it makes in the
world.
Action Steps:
1. Practice more small talk with your mate,
and be sure to listen.
Be interested in the details of their day. See how quickly you can add
ten minutes of committed listening to your mate to your daily routine.
Make them feel heard and understood.
2. Have more physical contact. See if
you can get to six hugs a day!
3. Notice how much you do or don't look your
mate directly in the eye. See if you can make direct eye contact while
talking with them at least six times a day. Just six times a day will
make a difference.
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