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Love Advice
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Love Advice On Intimate Requests
Do you want to double or triple the love you feel in
your relationship every day? Have you found that staying in love is harder
in many ways that falling in love? There are many ways to increase the love
in your relationship. Here we will discuss just one of the ways you
can do this.
A skill you can use to double the love you feel is called Intimate Requests.
This is a tool that you can learn in minutes and use to add to the love you
feel starting today.
Here's what you do to multiply the love you feel with Intimate Requests.
Start by listing 4 things you think would be fun and intimate if your mate
did them for you. Short, nice, 5 minute or so actions your mate could take
to make you feel loved and appreciated.
There are lots of things your mate could do that would make you feel more
loved and happy. A back rub. Wearing sexy lingerie. Cuddling for a few
minutes on the couch before or after evening chores like dinner and laundry.
Think of four or five things your mate could do that wouldn't take much time
but that would make you feel special and appreciated.
Just making this list is powerful mojo for adding more love to your
partnership. You don't make them try to think of ways to make you happy, you
don't assume they should know, you figure it for yourself!
Next you make an Intimate Request every day. You ask them to cuddle on the
couch for a few minutes after dinner. Or you ask them to rub the tiredness
from your feet. All they can do is say no, so don't hesitate to ask.
If you don't ask, you won't get!
Here's the heart of the skill. You and your mate want more love. They can't
read your mind. You figure out what makes you feel loved then ask them to do
those things! You ask them playfully, or you offer a trade, but you ask!
Make it okay if they say no sometimes, but ask. This will give true
love the best chance to flourish.
This way, you can add more love to your life consciously, on purpose. You
don't sit around wondering where the love has gone from your relationship.
You figure out what makes you feel loved and you ask. You cause love instead
of sit around moping about not having it. Then ask your mate what makes them
feel loved and do that for them. You can try this today and see what
happens!
Action Steps:
1. Make up a simple list of 4 things your mate
could do to pleasure you.
2. Ask your mate to do one of them. Ask
playfully and with humor.
3. If there is a problem getting them to agree
to do it, offer a trade.
4. Once it's working, ask them what things you
could do that would delight them.
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